I think we focus on the wrong thing in relationships. We focus so much on what we are to do, how to pursue, how to have a date, what to do what to do? These are good questions and good things, but I think they are bad because we miss an entire question that begs an answer; what is a relationship? Like our view of ourselves, it all flows from who we are. What we do flows from who we are. In the same light, I think relationships and what we do in them flows from what a relationship is. You cannot know why we do something or why our actions follow a certien way unless we understand what we are. In the same light, how can we know what to do in a relationship if we have no understanding of what it even is? Until we have at least a glimpse of what a relationship is, we will never know what to do or how to act. You can never know how to act until you understand what it is you are acting on.