We are more connected than we would like to think. We like to think our actions are our own and that we are isolated in their consequences. C.S. Lewis pointed out that God is outside of time. If there isn't time, then everything is. If everything is, then we are all connected in a literal sense. In another sense, we all carry a piece of those we are close to. If we ruin ourselves, we ruin that piece of the person we love. Funny, our lives are not our own in two senses. Our lives are gifts from God and we are bound, unless we wish to parts of those we love, to the people we love.